This post is not jewelry-related, but it sure is important to me.
So I thank you for reading.
Last Thursday, my Mum went to be with Jesus.
There are so many things that remind me of her, but I would like to share the things that have made the most impact.
Mum has always accepted what God dealt her with quiet faith. For the last 10 years, her body has been failing. It started out with a couple bad strokes that eventually left her bound to a wheelchair, unable to walk, and unable to use her right hand. Although she could not change her circumstances, my mom taught me that she could change her attitude. She never complained, but was cheerful and would sing amidst her difficulties. Even at the end, when she was unable to speak, unable to move, and on her last days, we heard her humming. She was still praising God.
Through her death, God has reminded me of his goodness. In 1988, when my mom was 38, she was diagnosed with lymphoma of the brain. The doctors gave her 30 days to live. I was 5 years old. At the time, there had only been 15 cases of it in the US, so treatment was pretty much experimental. But God healed her and gave her back to us. She was able to go on and raise 3 kids, work for 6 years as a medical interpreter, and serve many years in the church.
When she was diagnosed in ‘88, Mum asked God for 20 more years to live so that she could watch her kids grow up. God granted that wish. It was no coincidence that after 20 cancer-free years, her health started declining. She started having strokes, which slowly handicapped her until she was unable to walk.
One month ago, my mom was again diagnosed with lymphoma of the brain. And one month later she went to be with Jesus. It is no coincidence to me that the Lord took her away exactly 30 days later this time. It is not cruel; rather, it makes me reflect on His goodness in healing her and giving her more time when she asked for it 30 years ago. She had a full life, and just as God has promised her, he allowed her to see her kids grow up. I should add that my dad’s dedication and support of my mom was so vital during this time.
In her final days, we would gather around her bed and sing old hymns to her. It Is Well With My Soul was one I sang to her often, and was one of the songs we sang in her final moments. The hymn reminds me of how she viewed life. And even though she is gone, the song has stayed in my heart:
The funny thing is that having less time has actually forced me to be more efficient and productive. Who knew?! Before having kids, I took a year off from work so that I could focus on jewelry. Did I make a lot of progress on my jewelry? Not really. I ended up spending most days at yoga class and trying to get motivated enough to fire up the torch…and I found that my motivation would wane pretty quickly too, which meant I didn't get much done. I've come to the conclusion that having time does not mean you will accomplish more.
Do I wish I had more work time? Absolutely. And while I cannot change my circumstances, I can change my habits. Here are a couple things that have helped me become a more productive person, and just thought I'd share them with you.
I put my phone down during nap time and get to work
I used to get sucked into texts and chats and scrolling on Instagram when the kids were napping. But then I'd get sucked in and lose half an hour to that. So I decided I needed to change that habit. It wasn't helping me. Facebook can wait. Instagram can wait (well, ok I try to post to my Stories, but that's it). Emails and texts too (unless there's an urgent need). So if you don't hear from me during nap time, this is why. I love you, but my work time is also precious. I will get back to you later!
I set weekly goals
It used to take me a long time to get motivated to work on jewelry. I think that is partly because I didn't have a clear picture of what I wanted to accomplish that week. I also used to make unrealistic goals for myself (for example, make 3 rings in a week), and get disappointed that I'd never reach them. Now, I have learned that I am more efficient when I spend time at the beginning of each week planning out what I want to accomplish. I've started logging everything into this little notebook that I call my Creative Log: I write down a) my goals for the week, b) what I actually accomplished, c) things I'm thinking about, as well as d) how much time I've spent
at the bench. And my goals are actionable items, such as 'order supplies,' 'solder prongs on ring,' or 'take pictures of necklace.' They are kind of like a glorified 'to-do' list; they are small but feasible. And because of that, I can actually cross things off my list (and feel good about it!)
And you know what? Setting weekly goals has made a huge difference in social media. I used to get overwhelmed by it all. I'd see all the pretty things that other people were making, and I'd just feel bad about myself. It got to the point where I didn't want to post because I didn't have new work to show. But now that I set weekly goals, I do have measurable things I work on that I can post about. I am excited to share my work in progress and lessons learned from mistakes. And I think perhaps it's more interesting to see the behind the scenes parts than the pretty finished piece.
I started waking up early
I'm a night owl, so this one was pretty hard. But I was tired of not having enough time to work during the day and no motivation at night. My friend Natalie suggested that I wake up early to work. I cringed. But then I tried it out. I woke up just one hour earlier than usual, and used that time for jewelry. The first few days, I was a zombie. But then it got easier. Now I look forward to it. And that list of weekly goals that I talked about earlier has really come in handy. Because of it, I know exactly what to work on when I wake up.
I hope that this post has been helpful and encouraging to you! And if you have any words of wisdom about being more efficient, I would love to hear them!
If you follow my on IG, you probably saw a post or two (or three or four) from the challenge. I’ve always had good intentions towards meeting my goals, but (like most people) I lose steam pretty quickly. Part of it is because I don’t see immediate results. Or, maybe the goals I set are just not THAT important to me.